@dusx
Thank you so much for your answer, I've been trying and testing some things and your suggestion of testing Isadora to Isadora was very useful. there seems to be an ndi compatibility issue between touchdesigner and Isadora or something. right now I'm using syphon on the Touch macbook to get the visuals into Isadora and using ndi to send it to the other computer.
So syphon Touch > Isadora gives smoother results than using NDI it seems.
Hope this helps others as well who run into this problem